A long with the blossoming love affair with the first child comes the question,”Must I have another child?” After the initial adjustment to the first baby,and when the first few months of colic are over,new parents begin to experience the euphoria of being in love. Every time they look at their 4-month-old, she smiles back at them adoringly. A vocalization from the parent produces a sigh or an “ooh” in response. The baby wriggles all over as she attempts to communicate with the hovering parent. Few moments in life are as delicious as these minutes of reciprocal communication and in control of the world.
Given A choice in planning a family,parents shoul paln with regard to their own energies and tolerance. Their own reasons for hurrying or delaying in spacing children may be the best gudelines they can follow. A mother who wants to have her family quickly so that she can get back into the marketplace may resent being kept at home for too many years and may indirectly take it out on her family. A father who feels he needs time between each children to save up for their future may be saying that he can assimilate one child and one responsibility at a time. The problem for most families is that they can’t anticipate and plane in advance to accommodate their levels of energy and strength.
Parents who wait for two to three years between their children may wonder whether the children will be too far apart to be friends as they get older. Will they be able to depend upon each other? My own experience has led me to the feeling that if the parents can enjoy the spacing of the children,the children will be better friends for it. If parents are stressed by children who are too close in age,the children will spend most of their chilhood in sibling rivalry. Sibling rivalry is always aimed at parents. Children are inevitably rivalrous,and when parent do not get involved,they will sort out their competitive feelings by themselves. If the children’s rivalry makes parents feel they have not been adequate parents to each child,then the feelings of rivalry are reinforced and may outweight the more positive feelings between siblings. This is another reason for planning children around the parents’ requirement foe available energy. Two-to three year spacing often fits into such needs. By teh age of 2 or 3 most toddlers are basically independent. Their mobility is established,their play is rich and can be independent, they should have established independent eating and sleeping habits,and many of them are on their way to understanding the advantages of being toilet trained.
In addition,by 2 years of age children are ready for group play with others their own age. A peer group can be the highlight of a toddler’s week. The learning that occurs as they play with each other,the discharge of tensions and the sorting out of negativism that can take place in a small play group demonstrates the marvelous availability of children of this age to each other. This means that a mother can set up regular play groups with other mothers,or she can feel comfortable about placing her toddler in a day or group setting-for her own sake-so that she can be available to her new infant. Spacing children two or three years apart can be made easy and productive for everyone in the family.
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